It was September in the South, and we all had our heads on our desks. We had just come from the cafeteria after having lunch and the room was sweltering but this was the time of the day when our 5th grade reading teacher, whose name now escapes me, read out loud to us while we sat quietly digesting and cooling off. The book was "The Pearl" by John Steinbeck. The droning box fans, placed strategically around the room, were competing with her voice but I could hear her just fine and even though I had just eaten, and it was so warm in that room, and I felt so lazy, I didn't close my eyes like some of my classmates because I didn't want to miss a word. My family moved away in the middle of that school year, but I know how this book ends so I guess we finished it before my departure. I, like Kino, have had to throw some pearls back into the ocean on occasion. It's not always an easy thing to do, especially if the pearl seems rare or especially pretty. Sometimes pearls just aren't meant for us to keep. Sometimes the prettiest ones may turn out to be the ones that cause us the most heartache, even if they seem perfectly lovely to look at. Some pearls just belong to the vast ocean and were never meant to be worn around our necks.
Friday, March 31, 2023
Monday, November 9, 2020
Sad, sad, sad, sad songs
As I sit here in the waiting room at the eye doctor after being told to “use hand sanitizer and then step over here to have your temperature checked”, I’m finding it hard to feel okay. It’s super strange to me that I’m allowed to touch any and all of these glasses and put them right onto my face and then back to their little resting spot after those initial strong mandates were aimed my direction.
As I stare at myself modeling the frames in the mirror on the wall, I’d laugh about it, but I don’t think it’s funny at all. I’m always on the verge of tears these days anyway, but it’s hard to breathe through this mask and I hate it from the very depths of my soul. And now an extremely sad, memory-inducing song is playing over the speaker despite the echoing laughter coming from the office around the corner. It's like they can't even hear it. Even if they don't, it's still blatantly disrespectful to my memories.
The lady in the section of chairs next to mine comments to a second lady about how cute it is that her mask matches her purse. Another even sadder song begins to play. The lady in front of me chimes in that she saw some very cute patterned masks at a local store this week and they were on sale. Eavesdropping on this discussion has reduced my indignation and misery to a fashion accessory. Good for them! They aren’t crying and feeling bitter as they sit in their waiting room chairs behind their sparkly, colorful purse-matching face coverings ignoring the sad, sad melody completely. They seem to be able to breathe just fine and enjoy talking through the cloth, oblivious of any pain wafting through the air in the shape of music.
As for me...my mask is solid black. And never will it be anything more. Like mourning. It’s appropriate for me in these days of my life. And when I get in the car to go home I’ll take off the offensive thing, turn the sad sad JP Saxe music up very loudly and wallow in how sad he is because that’s what I do.
Sunday, May 12, 2019
Sally Forth Mama - Eyes Forward
Today I'm contemplating Mother's Day and what it is to be a Mom. If I could just go back in time. LORD, if I could go back and do some things differently. (see above paragraph related to the reason I should not be wasting my time thinking these thoughts). How pleasing to know I have really great kids despite my inadequacy. How thankful I am that God provides what we need despite our humanity.
Today I'm contemplating just forgiving myself. I've asked my Creator for forgiveness. He said yes. I also feel like He might have rolled His heavenly eyes at me as he did it. You know... "how many times to I have to say that before she gets it?" I think the problem is that it is STILL my tendency to continue to do the wrong thing and that thought has me all sideways. Even after I face the consequences of a misdeed I'm still trying to be selfish. And I do believe THAT is the true disease. Man I need to stop to that.
Today, I'm contemplating stopping that. Better yet I should stop contemplating at all and just stop it.
HBOB
LRTSGD
Sunday, March 10, 2019
Little Green Men and the Hunt
When Patrick was about 4 or 5 years old, he received a Fisher Price Robin Hood's Forest play set. It brought him (and his sister) many years of imaginative play and was one of his favorite toys.
As time progressed, the way time always does, he outgrew Robin Hood and started playing video games. We took his toys and boxed them up and put them in the attic for safekeeping. Fast forward to 2010 when we moved to another city. As we were moving things around and packing up the house, a little green clad fellow from that set appeared out of nowhere. Obviously, he had been hidden away under something for a very long time. He ended up in box of miscellaneous items that didn't really belong anywhere and was brought along to the new townhouse. We lived there for about a year before we bought a new house and I have no idea where this guy was hiding during that year, but he made his appearance again once we got into the new house. Specifically, I found him hanging from the towel ring beside the sink in the kid's bathroom. As I was straightening up in there, it caught my eye and I rolled my eyes, grabbed it and shoved it in the center drawer between their sinks. I didn't think too much of it except that it was weird. The next time I was in the bathroom, the little green guy was back, hanging for dear life to the towel ring. I laughed and threw him back in the drawer. This went on and on, until one day I saw this little guy on top on the door frame in the hallway. I took him down and decided this was obviously a game to the kids so I found a new weird place to put him. This has gone on for eight years now. All four of us participate in moving him if ever we catch a glimpse of him. The other day I was thinking about what a tradition this game had become for this entire family and I wondered if the kids would fight to own the little guy when they left. To avoid a Solomon-like division of the figurine, I got on eBay and found another one. I'm telling you... you can find anything on the internet. So now we have two and I can rest assured that both my kids can own him after they leave here. I have a feeling that maybe I worry too much about things like this but I can't even describe the peace I feel about owning two. Now if I could just get them to leave. OH STOP IT! I'm kidding.
Sunday, August 30, 2015
Observations About the Great State of Texas
2. Lawn edging wide enough to jog in-
In Beaumont, the space between the edge of the grass and the sidewalk or road can be anywhere from an inch to...well...a foot. It's ridiculous. And ugly. It's not everybody, but enough that it makes me wonder.